Different scenarios you might find yourself in

When parents are fighting

  • Know that this is quite normal in a relationship and that they still love each other.
  • When the argument happens, get away from the arguing, somewhere you can go to until the fight is over
  • If fights get out of hand- hitting, shoving and swearing, or if anyone gets hurt, let someone/ an adult know.
  • Let out some steam for a while before you talk to them.
  • Try to talk to them about how you feel and maybe come up with a solution together.

When your parents are never satisfied with your achievements

  • Remember that you can’t please everyone, you should do most of these achievements for your personal reasons
  • Talk to them about how you feel, then you can understand some of your parents actions
  • If that doesn’t work out, talk to someone else you trust and a mentor or family/school therapist for help and talk to the family from there.
  • Try to acknowledge from time to time, that might be the problem
  • Obey your parents, they will appreciate you obedience to them
  • Try to brighten their day from time to time when you can
  • Show gratitude

When your parents are thinking of divorce or have divorced

  • Talk with a person you trust about you feel and try not to fall apart.
  • Talk about why the divorce is happening has happened
  • Understand that you are not the reason why
  • Try to keep in touch with each parent
  • Do NOT take any sides
  • Mentioning the fact that you don’t want to be caught in the middle
  • Try to incorporate them into your life, in special events, without making it awkward, by letting them discus it through
  • Try to continue living life as normal as possible, this way your life won’t be heavily affected

When you parents don’t listen to you when you need them to and always think the worst before talking to you

  • When they have free time at home, try and talk to them about this matter. Not angrily or with “sass” as it won’t help, rather in a sincere approach.
  • Don’t become pushy with this subject, as it will repel them form the subject even more.
  • Be patient, as your parent(s) may be very and have little time.
  • In your talks, try to discuss ways of avoiding lack of bonding time and misunderstanding
  • Try to acknowledge from time to time, that might be the problem
  • Obey your parents, they will appreciate you obedience to them
  • Try to brighten their day from time to time when you can
  • Show gratitude

If your parent are overprotective and it’s annoying you

  • Have a talk with them with another adult you trust, tell them that you are not as young as they treat you. Have a therapist or your parents’ friend or another parent (who isn’t overly protective) to tell them it is important for you to experience certain things and that you will not grow with their constant “babying”
  • Show the responsibility and maturity in you, they will soon see that you are a big boy/girl

Your parents just don’t care

  • Take it to God/ think religious, go to church ask for support
  • Talk to them about this matter
  • Threaten to go to orphanage/social workers

If solutions fail

  • Go to church and seek spiritual guidance from God.
  • Go to family therapists
  • Go to social workers directly
  • Go to police
  • If divorced, go to other parent and talk about it

Oratile Ndimande

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2 thoughts on “Different scenarios you might find yourself in

  1. I am john a young 14 year old boy my mom treats me like a 4 year old and i have tried talking to her and other people but it just seems to make things worse but after i read this blog which contains tons of information on dealing with our parents i actually made my mum readd this blog to actually be abe to understand how i feel and she has changed a bit i guess thank you.murray,oratile,alloucious,refilwe,simba and refiloe..keep on the good work we need more teen dominating blogs

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